Moonwoman on Loving Relationships

2.Your Love Blueprint

balloon Our parents are our first teachers. They helped give us our unique love blueprint. We learn initially how to love from them. If you have loving parents, that’s terrific because you have a strong love foundation. What if they are not? What if the love you received from either one of your parents did not match the love you needed as a child? Then, you have a blueprint for life that you have to paint over. Astrology can help pinpoint some of the places where you have painted your heart with pain. You can repaint the picture!

crayon If you are a water sign, or your planets are in water houses, it likely is critical for you to repaint the picture. Chances are you did not get the loving attention and physical strokes called hugs, you needed to fill the well in your soul. That doesn’t mean that our parents didn’t love us enough. They did! They just did not know how to show us through actions and words. They are part of that generation that did not show feelings. They learned from their parents and it became part of our family pattern or blueprint. Bringing this to a conscious level can help you to use different crayons to color your world today. So we have to repaint the picture so you can bring into your life the loving relationships you so richly deserve.

First I would like you to look at the adjectives describing your relationships. If you have a highlighter, go through and highlight the two words that keep on popping up. Once again, choose only two words to describe your family’s love theme on the family blueprint. Ahh, now you see which words have colored your love beliefs your entire life. Don’t worry if they aren’t terrific words, because later we are going to learn to reframe them and color your world in a way that matches who you are as a person today.

3.Love and Passion in your life

Next think about the events your family did together that are some of your fondest memories. Write 4 of the best childhood memories down. In other words, put on your life map, the four experiences that are outstanding and memorable for you. Answer these questions:

What were you doing with either your mother, your father or your family?
How did it make you feel?
How are you doing a similar thing in your life as an adult?
How are you sharing this with your kids or grandkids?
Are you doing those things as a hobby?
Are you doing those some of those things as a career or part of your job?
Are you dreaming of doing those things some day?
Make a list of the things you are passionate about.
What pattern is emerging?
Why are you choosing not to do the things that bring you passion and pleasure?

Let me give you an example. Two of my fondest memories from my childhood were the family reunions on my uncle’s farm and walking through the fields with the farm dog. What do you think brings me bliss today? Those two things are at the top of my list! When my honey joins me, I’m totally happy and content in the heaven we have developed together. The seeds of who we are today were sown in our childhood’s fond memories.

"Loving yourself involves the knowledge that only you can be you. If you try to be like anyone else, you may come very close, but you will always be second best. But, you are the best you. (Leo Buscaglia. Love)

Affirmation

infinity I am connected with the infinite energy of universal Love. I hug myself. I know, accept and appreciate myself and my uniqueness. By valuing my authentic self, I can encourage others to honor their authentic selves too. I choose to love myself for who I truly am!